It won’t make a difference.  The system’s rigged.  I don’t like either candidate.  Why bother?  It’s too much trouble.  It’s too much of a hassle. My vote won’t count anyway …  The reasons are endless. The reality is, as soon as you choose not to vote, the reason is you. The system, run by humans and their astonishing ability to be flawed, isn’t perfect. But […]

F*ck around and find out.  The over-used Twitter meme says it all. Do something; reap the consequences. Take something away; reap the consequences. Unintended consequences aren’t always predictable. It’s the intended consequences that scare me. Take away existing human rights, and the unintended (but c’mon, not unexpected) consequences might be a backlash at the polls, public protests (nonviolent or not), economic pushback, social chaos. The […]

Get to source. It’s the first rule in my book. It’s helped me make tough decisions and wade through grief. It’s helped me stay focused in my work, and balanced on the roller coaster of the last two years. Today I was reminded it’s also a good policy when you’re reading and sharing information. The news lately wavers from the disastrous to the unbelievable, as […]

(Earlier this year I wrote about Dad’s passing, and how life during pandemic made it so hard to “tell the bees.” Now we mourn my mom, who died earlier this month. These are the words of remembrance I spoke at her funeral, shared here with the encouragement of my hive, especially my sisters and my brother. I love you all.) It’s time to tell the […]

Almost two years of life during pandemic. How can time feel like a slog and a sprint in the same moment? How can our hearts process it all when life comes at us with this kind of intensity? The bittersweet joy of a wedding, with the oldest generation notably absent, followed four weeks later by Dad’s death.  The thrill of a new engagement, at the […]